Getting a Phone
Before January 17th, I did not have a phone.
Ever since middle school, my peers and even some teachers have given me “the look” - not only because I was phone-less, but because I was the new kid and a year younger to boot. Inevitably, age would come up as a topic of discussion, or there would be a point in a class where the teacher would say “use your phones”. All of a sudden, the room would go silent as everyone swiveled to look at me. “The look” wasn’t one of meanness or derogation, but of pure incomprehension. Here I was, already different because I had recently moved, the youngest in the grade, without a phone, in a group of people who have had phones since they were ten. I was totally unprepared. These weren’t the type of person I was familiar with, and they confused me as much as I must have confused them. These were people who can hardly remember life without a phone aside from the constant desire for one. People that panic at the thought of being separated from their phone for more than five minutes. People that would rather scroll through Instagram than read a book.
I found myself almost alone, disconnected from everyone because I was lacking a palm-sized tether to the world. Only almost alone because I had friends who appreciated live conversation and the ancient ways of emailing. For most of middle school, I constantly felt ostracized and that if I could only have a phone, all my problems would be solved.
Now, at 15 and a Junior in high school, I got a phone. I would say that I am better off for waiting. I was forced to make plans (especially for rides) in advance and not change them, lest I risk the ever embarrassing use of the teacher’s phone. I was never remotely shackled to my parents. I learned to be responsible, punctual, and earned my parent’s trust early. I never was, and don’t plan to be, involved in the dramatic mess that is social media.
Having had my phone for three weeks now, I still don’t see why people consider it a necessary item. I haven’t been in a situation where it would be vital, and I almost never see people in a situation where they need a phone - the major exception being a car crash. They don’t even seem to be that big of a convenience; sure you can always contact people, but you can be contacted anywhere. I see phones more as a harness than a resource.
As gratifying as texting friends may be and as happy my parents are that they “never have to worry again”, I feel that when I got my phone, I lost some of my freedom and privacy. I did so much without a phone. I went all over with the band (including Disney World), I went to friends houses, rehearsals, and field trips. I made it up to semester two of eleventh grade. All that time, I was blissfully isolated, and I am thankful for that. What are your opinions on the best uses of phones and how they have influenced you?








